The daily struggles of motherhood are REAL!
Our minds are going non-stop and we are constantly being pulled in ten directions at once! From morning routines to thinking of what to cook every day, tantrums, chores, errands, to bedtime routines – it’s A LOT!
Both mentally and physically we are worn out.
We are moms, wives, single, widowed, separated, divorced, friends, sisters, daughters, nieces, employees/employers, and the list goes on. Trying to nurture all of those relationships and manage and balance life itself is NOT easy. So, protect your peace!!
I’ve learned that I function so much better being at peace and as stress-free as possible.
Easier said than done right?! I know this is challenging because life will always throw curveballs at you and there will be times when you feel like you can’t catch a break! Between work deadlines, the kids school projects, doctors’ appointments, and chores it’s always something!
In times like these, it is important to keep things in perspective. We don’t have the power to control what happens in our life, but we do have the power to choose how we react to these situations. This is a daily commitment to make to ourselves.
What does it mean to protect your peace and why is it so important?
Protecting our peace means maintaining and thriving in a healthy environment of growth and being aware of and shielding our feelings. When we are not at peace, it begins to affect our daily lives emotionally and mentally and decreases productivity.
- Improves our ability to focus on what is important to us – hello to-do list! let’s learn to prioritize it. We can’t do it all in one day. Take things day by day and one step at a time!
- Helps develop patience and tolerance – oooh us moms really need this one! Those kids know how to push our buttons!
- Improves relationships with ourselves and others – reminder: self-care isn’t selfish!
Protecting your peace may look like
Taking a break
it is necessary. Burnout is real and if you don’t slow down you will wear yourself out and your family will get the brunt of your impatience,
it is impossible to say yes to everything and everyone! Don’t bite off more than you can chew. Prioritize your to-do list and see what works for that day.
I don’t know about you, but when I declutter I feel 10 pounds lighter! Get rid of things that no longer serve you both physically and mentally.
Nourishing your mind and body
each day we make sure our families are fed, dressed, and well taken care of! Don’t forget about you! Remember to eat in the midst of all the chaos. Easy ways to nourish our minds are by reading or even listening to podcasts.
Distancing yourself from someone
if someone you love dearly is constantly being negative or gossiping it’s totally ok to create distance with that person. With everything else you have going on that type of distraction is not helping you.
Cutting someone off
sometimes we grow apart or conflict arises – it’s ok to wish that person well and move on!! Do not feel guilty. You need people in your life who uplift and support you!
Leaving a job
overworked and underpaid? Long hours cutting into your family life? You may want to consider other opportunities if they are a fit for you!
it’s ok to seek help! The stigma of going to therapy should be long gone. If you feel like you’ve exhausted all other options and they are not working for you then professional help may be your solution.
Social media breaks
on all platforms, one thing to ALWAYS remember is most people only show the best of themselves and their lives. From filters to phonies you have to remember to not compare! Sometimes it’s best to take a break!
Joining an online community
social media has its pros and cons, and one major pro is online communities with like-minded people. I created MomChat as an open and safe space for moms to relate to one another! It feels good knowing you are NOT alone!
Opening up to a friend
keeping everything bottled up will have you feeling like you want to explode, snapping at others, and feeling down! If you have a really close friend that you trust, opening up to them will feel so good. Even if you are not seeking advice just getting it off your chest will lighten your spirit! I love a good vent session! Hearing that “Yes girl, I feel you” will go a long way.
Setting realistic expectations
all of the above are steps to take in protecting your peace daily! I think this is my favorite method. If you are real with yourself about what you can get done in one day your stress level will be greatly reduced. You have 5 loads of laundry to catch up on? Do 2 today and 2 tomorrow and so on. You have projects to finish before bedtime? Order dinner and you’ll have more free time. You know someone is not reliable? Don’t ask them to do something important for you.
If it costs you your peace it is too expensive
There is no one specific way. Whatever works for you, do it! Protecting your peace means protecting your mental and emotional health. We cannot pour from an empty cup and being depleted and defeated will not help us help ourselves. Be proactive in protecting yourself because, at the end of the day, only YOU can help you in this aspect. You are your own person and you are in control of your life! Do what brings you joy and makes you happy!
Being at peace is a major form of self-care and self-love.
As a mother, being at peace with myself, my children and our home has so many benefits! Yes, there are still hard days, in which I will struggle, but trying to be at peace allows me to have a more positive mindset, be more mindful of my triggers and act accordingly, and not take my blessings for granted! Additionally, it can decrease the mom guilt!
Remember to protect your peace, get rid of toxicity, cleanse your space, and cultivate love. It won’t be easy, but it’ll be worth it!
What are some ways you protect your peace? Let us know in the comments.